My best friend called me a few days ago, and she told me that she’s having an issue with her partner and it was so hard for her. Possibly the hardest..
As much as I wanted to respond and give advise, I chose to listen to her, giving her space she needed to talk things out and process. I didn’t even give my opinion about the issue, nor giving relationship advice.
She said she felt better after, and she told me this is what she needed.
She needed a space.
Give space
Sometimes, it’s the best gift we can give to others. And it also can be the best gift we give to ourselves. A space for ourselves..
Life happens. Work can be hard sometimes, relationships can be difficult, and things just sometimes don’t go as we want it be. And the thing is, no matter how skillful we are, sometimes it’s just so easy to get caught in the drama within our head.
So what can we do about it? How can we stay grounded in the midst of chaos?
I can give you many kinds of tools and techniques, but I have to admit, even for me when things get very hard, I almost forgot everything I know.
But then I realize, I just need one thing. It’s the space..
Take space
Take the time and space we need to process things without judgment and the need to fix things up. Let go of the urge to “do” something about it.
Sit in silence, or pray. If being in silence is too hard for you, then take a warm bath, or listen to slow instrumental music with the intention of giving yourself space. Maybe you also want to visualize yourself in your most favorite quiet place like the mountain, or beach.
If you need to move your body, then take space while moving your body. You can go for a walk in nature, even run or dance, or whatever physical activities you love. Go to a café, and just observe people, or maybe journaling if you wish. Just give space to yourself.
Stop distracting yourself. Maybe put down your phone for a while.
If you need a friend, call them. Let them know that you want them to hold space for you, to listen for you. Tell them that you don’t need advice, what you need is space.
Take space you need with love and compassion.
Only when we give ourselves space, we can release what we need to release, and receive the clarity that we need.
All is well. 🙏🏽
With love,
Inuk ❤️
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