TRI NURAINI

* I updated this on Jan 1, 2021

Ok, bear with me, I’m gonna be a bit cheesy today.

When it comes to significant other, there are a lot of questions going on. One most popular question is,  “what kind of person do you want to be with?” It usually goes down with a long list of criteria of a person that we project to be with. This is not wrong, in a sense, we need to be clear about what we actually want, and I believe the best way to answer this question is by understanding ourselves in the first place.

I thought about this question again a couple of months ago, and I had a different feeling. At this point, I feel the question “what kind of relationship do you want?” has become a  much more important question.  It has profound meaning, bringing the projection of your life in front of you. And I guess whether you are single or in a relationship, answering this question could also give you some sort of clear guidance on what kind of life you want to have, how does it makes you feel, and hopefully help you take some actions to this vision (well, you know, you can always start with communicating this idea to your partner first 🙂 )

So here is mine…

A loving and healthy relationship 

Having a loving healthy relationship adds more joy in navigating life, it brings the best out of me and brings more love and inspiration to my life. The connection that I have with my partner is painted with kindness and compassion. It supports my inner peace, and gives me more strength in bringing more love and light to the world. That connection strengthens me as a person, and us as a couple especially when facing adversities in life. It fuels the feeling of joy, inspiration, peace, and freedom to both of us.

We deeply respect, care for, and support each other. We bring forward our best attitude and we resolve conflicts with open hearts. We heal and grow together. We become the best version of ourselves as what we do is backed with service and love. We commit to the purpose of this relationship to be loving and healthy, thus we create a riffling effect on the world around us. Our happiness brings out other people’s happiness; our family, friends, and other circles. We create a loving & healthy environment for the people around us. We build a strong and happy family. We bring more joy and peace, and we make the world a better place when we are our happiest selves.

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So ya, there it is. I caught up in the moment when I was writing this.  It came from an understanding of myself. It brought a sense of relief and clarity to me. Every time I read it back, it makes me feel good. It gives me a chill.

I hope this little note could give you some inspiration too.

With love,
Inuk ☕

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